Gary and Jordan. I know people like to tease them about being gay and whatever, but I have to say I think they really have turned out to be very good friends. In times of frustration, I even took my turn in making subtle (low blow) comments to Gary about their friendship.
They do have the commonality that our families have close ties and Gary considers Jordan to be his cousin even though they are not related by blood.
They have bonded as friends over the last 4 years or so. It's understanding in so many ways. They are two young Native guys walking the fine line between trying to stay out of trouble, getting in trouble and going to court, problems in school, becoming a young father, almost becoming a young father and dealing with the heartbreak of losing that possibility (for now anyway), looking for jobs, and still trying to maintain the identity of their own culture.
This is the area that I think Gary has always been very strong, he's been singing and drumming since he was 2! I have it on video and I have the memories of him constantly singing and pounding on anything and everything......singing powwow songs, I think he was born with it.
Gary grew up without his dad in his life, his father figure's have always been his grandpa, grandma and me...but mainly his grandpa. Even though we all think (and get very frustrated) that he's not retaining what we're teaching him and telling him.... over the years, I think that he really has been listening....Gary has always lived life to the beat of his own drum.
Maybe that's why these two make such good friends. Jordan (I think) does have a dad in his life, if not, he has brothers that have taught him some pretty important and interesting life surviving skills.
This is why I've decided that I don't mind if they hang out at my house for now. They have a safe place to stay and they are fed.
I really believe that they will be friends for life, I've also decided not to 'go against the grain' when it comes to this friendship.
I will say without a doubt......No....they are not gay! Ha.
Jordan has court this week, we'll see what the immediate future has in store for him.
Meanwhile, I will continue to hope that Gary stays out of trouble and steps up his efforts in finding a job!
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I am also happy that Gary has Jordan to mentor with, they can teach each other their life skills, like Gary loves the woods, hunting deer and partridges, etc.
Jordan also has life skills that I noticed when he came here, like trying to fix cars, etc. In the long run, I'm confident those two will find something to take care of themselves for the rest of their lives.Hopefully,they learned their lessons about not getting into any more trouble with the law, jail and prisons are not where I would like to see them go.
Ma
That is a very nice post. Just brought a lump in my throat. I'm glad Gary has such a good friend to lean on in difficult times.
Thanks for the nice words of acknowledgment, they really are pretty good kids.
it's good u haven't given up on him or should i say both of them....that's what a mother is for and even Jordan needs mothering...it's something that he has always lacked in his life his real mom gave him up real young and he's been wandering ever since...they are still lil boys after all, even tho they don't want to admit it. nona
Gary is a good kid. At least he doesn't drink and is interested in his culture. Underneath that quietness is a bright person just waiting to find his place in life. He is fortunate to have a mommy that loves him so much and a true friend to stand up for him. This is a nice post! GL
Aw, no one ever thought they were gay! That is cool you let them hang out at your house....like you said, at least they're fed and they have a place to go. Garloo and his buddy, I'm glad he has a friend in Jordan.....a person needs good friends to depend on when life gets tough.
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